With over 25 years in the wedding industry I’ve seen and experienced quite a few things. You can watch all sorts of TV shows about bridezillas; but, you don’t hear much about momzillas. Thankfully they are a small percentage of the mothers out there.

What makes a momzilla? There are a variety of reasons. A mother who couldn’t afford the wedding she wanted so now your wedding is her chance. The “I’m paying for it so you have to do what I want” mother. Or she might be the mother who really wants her son or daughter to have the wedding of his or her dreams and just doesn’t realize that she has taken over.

The saddest case I’ve seen was actually a momzilla-in-law. The bride was gazing out her three tiered cake which had cute little bridges going to three satellite cakes. It was very pretty, but I could tell she was on the verge of tears. I asked her if something was wrong and she replied, “They’re all white.” I glanced at the cake knowing that they all had white frosting and asked her if they were supposed to be a different color. “No,” she said. “I love chocolate cake, but they are all white. My mother-in-law says wedding cake has to be white cake.” My heart broke for this poor bride. In the grand scheme of things what difference does it make if a cake is white, chocolate, or even if it’s a blueberry pie? What do you think? Does it matter what the cake is like under the frosting? Does it matter if the cake is actually cheesecake or a pie or cupcakes or if there is cake at all? Some weddings actually have dessert bars with mousse, puddings, fruit cups, and ice cream.

Here’s an observation I’ve made over the years. If you offer a selection of white, chocolate, marbled, carrot, or any other flavored cake, the chocolate ALWAYS disappears the fastest.

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